This bastard got drunk, drove down the wrong side of the road. He Killed 5 people.
Trust is a loving friendship
When I was a kid I had to make a religious banner for school. I had to create something about the word TRUST. I created a big green banner that said TRUST IS A LOVING FRIENDSHIP. My mom had it hanging in the basement for probably 25 years. I'm not sure where it is now...I'll have to find it. Anyways, while it was an ugly banner...the words have stuck in my head for many years. My last blog received alot of attention and responses because questions of love were raised. Inevitably my banner came to mind.
What is trust? How can you really trust anyone, when you set out to say I am going to trust this person. I mean if you bring to mind that you are going to trust someone, then are you really trusting someone? To trust don't you have to do it unconditionally? If you make the conscious decision to trust, then you have put a caveat to that trust in my mind.
What makes you trust some friends over others? What makes you trust some family members? What makes you trust family with certain secrets but friends with other secrets? What makes you pick and choose who to trust and when to trust? Do you openly trust someone you hardly know in hopes that trust will grow into a better relationship?
How can you really have a friendship when you don't trust anyone, or trust them with certain things? Or you just trust them over and over even though they step on your head and squash your soul like a grape?
If you are in a relationship, and that person leaves you...how do you trust them ever again? How can you not move with some intrepidation on every thing they do? Always forgive, but never forget? Easier said than done is it not?
Why does my dog eat Kleenex?
I usually tell myself to trust no one. I'm not sure I live like this really, nor do I want to. I am cautious, and well that sucks if you know what I mean. It's an added stress. It's as if I am trying to outsmart myself or it is just a defense mechanism. Am I just wired this way? Always plotting and prodding, and playing chess.
They (I hate the They..those bastards piss me off) say that those who do no trust others, do not trust themselves ultimately. I usually pick up on the words people use when they speak. If they end or begin a sentence with "seriously" or "let me be honest" or "no lie", does that mean that every other time they speak they are lying? Or does it mean they are not believable, and have to emphasize their honesty because the other times they are not sure or truthful?
I know people that respond to everything I say with "really?". What the heck don't you trust what I'm saying? Why are you questioning what I just said? I know I kid around, but geezus trust me please!
The fact I am talking about trust, probably will make it an issue more so for you or anyone in the immediate future. Why do you trust?
Perception, security, persuasion, reciprocation are the foundations of trust. Do you trust me, would you trust me, can you trust me? Should you trust me? Really?
I bring these questions up because I've been getting asked from a couple of close friends who are in situations where they just don't know what to do, and love it seems isn't enough for them. Why isn't love enough? Some say love can overcome anything, some say when it's love nothing else matters. Nothing else probably should matter, but why do we let it? If you settle for something or someone, isn't that love? It's a condition, you accept. Why do what you do just in the name of love? Love conquers all, or do all conquer love?
I am not the expert here (but I did stay at a Holiday Inn Express last night), yet I believe that CHOICE is key to everything in life. You choose to spend time with someone, you choose how to react. You choose to let your heart open, you choose to trust, you choose to accept or deny things. Choices, not fate or destiny is your where you end up in life. I choose to write this, it wasn't planned or bestowed upon me. I choose to love, to accept love, to deny love...to feel love, to have love. I choose to let the other person pursue me or not. I choose to let them in my heart, my head, and my soul. I choose to give it my all, or only bits and pieces. I choose to give them a glimpse at who I really am or not. I choose..I choose...I choose. Love is free to choose. With that being said I can choose to love someone who does not love me, but then where does that get me? I can choose to love the thought of just being in love, yet that isnt dealing with reality.
Does love require work, or is it just a given? Relationships require work, but you can have a good relationship without love can you not? Do you have to be IN LOVE to love, or can you fall out of LOVE and still love that person. Can you love more than one person at one time? Equally? Forever? I know the words I LOVE YOU are very overused, but they still are important don't you think? Love is a many splendid thing.
Can you improve your relationship because it requires more than love? The more I think about it, the more questions arise. The greatest of loves comes when two people CHOOSE the same actions (not just words) in life that compliment each other for the test of time. It's easy to be with someone when it is all new. Your heart is racing, you cannot think clearly, you see nothing but the bubble you are in. Over time that bubble disappears for whatever reason. Did you make the choices that inevitably made you fall out of love, or choices that didn't keep the love. Maybe just maybe you were never in love to begin with, just the hope and notion of it. Maybe just maybe it's really not that big a deal anyways.
I learned that if you love someone, you set them free. If they come back, that means it was meant to be, that they do love you. That's not easy to understand or accept. It sounds great in theory. Yet what about passion? Life is passion...love is passion. Fight for what you want, for what you love. See the conflict in fighting vs. setting free? There's a fine line there somewhere and you have to CHOOSE what you will do.
All to often the common response is " we grew apart" . Did you really grow apart, or is the reality that you never really loved each other enough to grow in love to begin with? Love ain't easy, love is blind, love stinks. All you need is love? I'm not so sure. Are you?
P.S. I Love You
Whether you believe in Christmas or not, you are human and the spirit of Christmas is what keeps up all going even if you don't know it. It is, it is, it is about being the best you can be, about love, about moving onward and upward. Christmas is just a day, but the spirit of it embraces your soul and becomes part of your being. It's all things American and libertarian, the fabric of liberty and the pursuit of happiness.
Life isn't perfect, and it sure isn't easy. Dealing with stupidity and evil everyday can wear you out. That's part of the complexity of this silly game we try to win at. Afterall we could just be a part of God's ant farm and here for his amusement...so give it your best shot, do the best, pay if forward, and make it worthwhile.
Thank you for being my online friend.
I love this...
Wizards of Winter - Transiberian Orchestra
Revenge of the Sugarplum Faires - Transiberian Orchestra
Carole of the bells - Transiberian Orchestra
Chritmas Cannon - Transiberian Orchestra
God Rest Ye Merry Gentlemen - Barenaked Ladies & Sarah McLachlan
Little Drummer Boy - Bob Seger
Blue Christmas - Elvis Presley
Father Christmas - The kinks
I Believe In Father Christmas - Emerson, Lake & Palmer
Twelve Days Of Christmas - Bob & Doug McKenzie
Wonderful Christmas Time - Paul McCartney
Pretty Paper - Roy orbison
Feliz Navidad - Jose Feliciano
Merry Christmas Baby - Otis Redding
Happy Christmas - John Lennon
Jingle Bells - Brian Setzer Orchestra
Silent Night - Johnny Cash
Last Month of the Year - Blind Boys of Alabama
My Favorite Things - Tony Bennett
The Christmas Song - Eva Cassady
Silent Night - John Denver & The Muppets
Rockin Around the Christmas Tree - Partridge Family
Deck the Halls - The Chieftans
The Holly and the Ivy - George Winston
I know this really cool chick, attractive, smart, has it all together. She will not use an escalator because she is afraid of falling. She isn't afraid of heights mind you, she is afraid of falling. So she'll take the elevator or stairs, but not the escalator. (shhhhh we wont tell her you can fall there too). I say what you say? Cuckoo for cocoa puffs!
Then there's this chick I know, same thing...has it all. She was afraid to eat chicken for years! What a chicken! I mean, what a scaredy cat.
A very good friend of mine is afraid of crowds. He will go to different events, but cases the place for an easy exit, and looks for spaces that are away from everyone. He just avoids strangers as much as possible. I'm not saying he is wrong here...just a bit odd considering there are people everywhere.
Mostly I have many friends and coworkers who are afraid of heights...that won't even think about going in a tall building or looking out the window. They freak out when driving on a bridge. By the way, I recommend going to Toronto's CN Tower and standing on their glass floor. Now that is cool.
Now I can't think of anything that I am really afraid of. I mean the usual stuff, like death or loss of a loved one of course. Or immediate fears like when the puck is coming at your face on a deflection...or you are driving next to a car of teenage girls....or you see Hillary speak on tv....those are normal fears. Impending death, immediate injury...those make sense to be afraid of. An Obama presidency is something to freak out about. If you actually know someone in a fraternity or soroity, that's freaky as well. Well, aside from Gamophobia, I seriously can't think of anything that I really have to deal with. Sure I don't like snakes or spiders...but I can handle it. Killed some spiders, dated a few snakes... I'm ok.
Here are some interesting phobias:
- Old people- Gerontophobia.
- Puppets- Pupaphobia.
- Riding in a car- Amaxophobia.
- Snow- Chionophobia.
- Telephones- Telephonophobia.
- Urine or urinating- Urophobia.
- Vomiting- Emetophobia.
- Writing in public- Scriptophobia.
- X-rays or radiation- Radiophobia.
- Yellow colour- Xanthophobia.
You know come to think of it, I have this fear every time I walk pass a sewer grate, that I'll drop my keys and then I am screwed. I seem to clench my keys tightly in a parking lot, even if they are in my pocket. Imagine losing your keys in a sewer? Now that scares the hell out of me! Sewerkeyaphobia I think it is called.
Just when you think you have it all figured out, bam out of nowhere something hits you, stops you in your tracks. Now what? What do you do? What can you do to overcome it, accept it, deny it? Never ever take things for granted because you could get FOILED AGAIN!!
That mall massacre in Omaha last week- solution: carry guns. It's going to happen again and again people. Let's get real here.
I've concluded that every woman looks good in either a hat, scarf, or boots. A combo of any is great. A trifecta is worth a marriage proposal on the spot.
Now this is the dumbest thing I've heard from the NHL in at least a few weeks:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/AMP_NHL_Winter_Classic. Are you kidding me? You are doing this on the day everyone is watching college football? Hello? Gary Bettman has now been commissioner of the fledgling NHL for 15 years now. The league sucks. Time for a Canadian commissioner, or me.
Playing hockey with the guys on Saturday is not what it used to be. I need need need to get back in shape. I have no legs, and it's pissing me off. My head is telling me one thing, my body aint listening. It's like my body is a woman!
I can't believe I am getting attacked for liking Ron Paul. Are you freaking kidding me? He has to be the only candidate of both parties with a clean voting record, and defends the Constitution. The only one who has not swayed from his principle or road the coat tails of special interest groups. You may not like the guy, or like what he stands for...but just admit if that is the case, you are a socialist. It's really that simple. You are free to feel that way, but I will fight you over it. Long live liberty!
So I ask a question about the meaning of life and get no responses. I post a bulletin on myspace asking for slang terms for breasts and I get 112 emails. It warms my heart to know our priorities are straight...and perky.
Who's a member of the Council on Foreign Relations? Dick Cheney, John Edwards, John McCain, Rudy Giuliani, John Kerry, Bill Clinton, Jimmy Carter....interesting bedfellows no?
The best talk show host on radio is Mike Church. Catch him if you can, you'll learn something. Those that do not learn from history are destined to repeat it. Repeat it.
Jon Kitna is someone I refer to as a 2 cent head.
Who the heck is Josh Groban? I'm not getting it.
Larry King is a muppet - don't tell anyone.
What do I like about snow? I like snow forts, snowballs, snowflakes, and sledding. That's it. It's white and pretty, but so am I. Get over it. Don't even tell me you like the snow you liar.
I've been inspired recently to learn the guitar. Music has been absent for the last 2 years in my life, but now I'm rekindling my soul and delving into those sounds that touch me and move me. My creative juices are flowing again, and this time I'm not stopping. If you have any new music artists you think are worth a listen, let me know. I'm always searching for the next cool thing...like Paolo Nutini.
I'm still not in the Christmas spirit. Decorations, music, snow, gifts...it's not hitting me. Maybe it will soon but I'm not so sure. It may take till Christmas morning. You're a mean one Mr. Grinch, you've got termites in your smile.
I need the NFL Network. Do you understand me? I need it now.
I have at least one cup of green tea per day. Better than coffee or donuts.
My dog talks in her sleep.
I don't care who the next Michigan football head coach is. Anyone is better than Carr, yet I know the same people who hired him and supported him will hire the next guy...which doesn't give me any confidence.
It never ceases to amaze me how many people still adore Kurt Cobain...he was overrated as hell. That over produced genre called grunge is an embarrassment to the history of rock and roll. A decade I'll easily forget.
Honor...trust...code...loyalty. Are these not the things friendships are made of? It depends on the degree of friendship, tactfulness, and overlapping relationships with others I suppose. Thus the instant drama that can prevail when word of anything gets out. Who do you trust? What do you say? What is a secret? What is gossip? What is a matter of fact? Complications of life, it is, it is, it is. Some people think you are closer to them, then you think you are and inevitably that leads to problems. Do you understand what I'm talking about?
Hey Cas, break a leg you bastard.
Scar tissue? What has she really done? She is a senator for a state she has never lived in. She was the first lady who never was in charge of policy (ok maybe you got me on this one). She has never run a business. You want her because she is a woman? Are you freaking kidding me? That's like Oprah supporting the Tool because he is black. Or Huckabee supporters wanting him because he is a Christian. Embarrassing! Objectivity is thrown out the door, and for what? A popularity contest.
How about voting for someone who stands for defending the constitution? How about voting for someone who will bring our troops home around the world and protect our freedom here? How about someone with a proven track record for never raising taxes? How about supporting someone who is not on the take by special interest groups? How about voting on principle rather than emotions that is fueled by media human drama stories?
It's not time for a woman to be president. It's not time for a miniority to be president. It's time for a person of honor and trust to be president. And it that person is a woman and a minority, then great! However the woman and minority with socialist tendencies on the take who are running are NOT those people.
I love you man, but please don't vote!
"I WANT SNOW!" - oh shut up
"Love is something we stumble upon not something we look for." - wow
"Better to be dead and cool then alive and uncool" - you are proof
"Life's tragedy is that we get old too soon and wise too late" - how would you know?
"Just looking around" - how productiuve
"Just about me" - what is?
"JUST A COUNTRY GIRLS JOURNEY" - why am I on that map?
"Just gotta be me "- as opposed to who?
"Forget regret...or life is yours to miss" - puke
"Life is good" - No it's not.
"It's noon somewhere" - impressive
"It's time to be real" - so when you gonna start?
"Women who behave hardly ever make history" - I've seen this 1000 times.
"LIFE IS HOW YOU LIVE IT" - NO WAY!!
"Whatever Dude" - endearing
"Do Dreams Really Come True?" - No.
"THERE'S A SONG FOR EVERYTHING" - Thank you Captain Obvious
"Bad to the bone and lovable teddy bear LOL" - don't use LOL ever or ROFLMAO
"It is what it is.." -It is not
"Hello everyone welcome" - why thank you, now I can die happy.
"Learn from yesterday, live for today, hope for tomorrow" - profound
"Some days, I think I have it all figured out. Other days...not so much." - today is an other day.
"Where there is no love,Nothing is possible" - where there is this quote nothing is possible
"LIFE IS WHAT WE MAKE IT SO MAKE IT GREAT" - thanks mommy
"Hello MySpace World" - goodbye
"Dare to choose the road less traveled" - Except for quotes
"Nobody can make you feel inferior without your permission" - You are little twit!
"Everything happens for a reason!" - Except for your quote
"What people say and do are 2 differant things" - no they are 5 different things
"What a great day!" - presumptious
"Got hummus "- No one cares about inside jokes.
"Just your average guy. ( most people who dont know me think so, ha ha ha) "- average
"I am here to say hello" - I'm here to say get lost.
"Welcome to my world" - Please don't tell me you vote!
"Work like you don't need the money. Dance like no one is watching, and love like you have never been hurt" - and write a quote like someone is actually interested in what you have to offer.
"The squeaky wheel gets oiled....." - stop!
"If your dreams don't come true...then dream new dreams, and MAKE them come true"" - my dream is for you to have a better quote.
"How many cares one loses when one decides not to be something but to be someone. " - suspicion!
" To live is to fight, to fight is to live" - to read your quote is to drool all over yourself.
"yada yada yada..." - too political for me!
"Have you ever danced with the devil by the pale moonlight?" - wow dude, this would be a great line for a movie.
"You must be the change you wish to see in the world" - yes that's why I'm blogging about this.
"~Fill your life with joy!" - I prefer Palmolive.
"MUHAHAHAHAH!!!!!!" - ugh
"AT&T is awesome!!! I really like my new job!!!" - Hooray!!!
"It's All Good" - Death isnt. Taxes isnt. Get a clue.
"what u see is what you get!" - thanks for the warning.
I've actually come across some good ones though:
You're a part time lover and a full time friend, the monkey on your back is the latest
I Hope Your Babies Look Like Monkeys!
First you propose to me. Now you're screwing another girl. Who are you?"
One more day to regret
Inside every older person is a younger person wondering what the hell happened.
Adam and Evil
Contentment is over rated
I'm not your girlfriend- Its just your turn!
One time I tripped while riding an escalator,I fell down the stairs for an hour and a
Warning I wear big earrings
Any connection between your reality and mine is purely coincidental.
If you bore me, you'll lose your soul to me
I dont understand what A.D.D is. OH LOOK A CHICKEN!!!
Is it beer thirty yet?
When life hands you lemons, ask for Tequila and Salt and call me over!
"I have a trophy husband just not 1st place."
"I'm not your type. I'm not inflatable."
"I hate winter. It is so difficult to check out a person when he is all bundled up so I have to use my imagination. I hate having to think."
"No child wants to play with a Charlie-in-the-Box!"
Now Now...don't respond with the typical responses of - if you dont like it, leave, or you are too cynincal, or your quote sucks you should talk, or everyone is different blah blah blah. I still love you.
Keep sending them to me. Thank you
I W Y
I like Pringles Sour Cream and Onion flavor. Not as good as Ketchup, but pretty darn good. Overall I can't say I'm a huge fan of Pringles anyways. Too hard to get the damn things out of can. Put them in a bag - geezus!
My plates expired on my car. My registration expired. My proof of insurance expired. what the heck is going on here? Why didn't the insurance company or the secretary of state remind me? I have a lease so it's not on my birthday...but still. Throw me a bone people. All those female cops are dying to cuff me, this is the perfect excuse to nab me. Come on!
Romney fires his landscapers who are illegal immigrants. Umm...duh! And which one of you toads support this flip flopper?
Yes the Detroit Tigers trade is great. However Inge is still on the team...but most likely off the bench. Pitching will be key, as the lineup is as potent as ever. Watchout Sox, you be screwed now.
The Detroit Lions suck. We know this. Don't be upset...it will be like this until there is new ownership. Getting pissed, or boycotting serves no purpose. Just accept it. You have a callous on the bottom of your foot? This is the same thing. Put a sock on.
Anyone catch Ron Paul on the Mike Church Show? Do a youtube search for Mike Church Ron Paul...there are 3 videos. Very informative. I really really like this guy. I can't find fault with him.
Strangest thing, my friend cannot eat any food that is soggy. What a freak. Imagine all the soggy food there potentially is!
I'm an LSU fan, always have been. Go Tigers. Beat OSU.
Mike Huckabee? He's a big government tax and spend Republican. And people like him because he's a baptist minister? Hello! Wake up!!
This month's wine is Pinot Grigo or Pinot Noir. I'm hooked for some reason. In the summer it's chianti or corona beer. But as it gets colder, pour me a Pinot gargoyle!
Ok I've had enough of the McTHIS and the McTHAT. Everything has a MC in front of it. It's McCRAZY. Stop it. It's not cute, it's not witty, it's not silly. It's stupid. But it's not a good stupid, it's a stupid stupid. McStop it!
Deal or No Deal - I've seen this a few times. I don't get the show. I understand it..but I don't get the appeal. The models are appealing, that's about it. Waste of my time.
My friend who is 40 is dating a 29 year old. Is that too young? I'm not sure.
For those of you that don't know I'm growing a playoff beard. A Detroit Lions playoff beard. It's about 10 days old..looking scruffily good. No it's not coming off when the Lions make the playoffs...because then I'd look like Rip Van Winkle. It's coming off as soon as they are officially eliminated. 2 more weeks! I'll have a nice smooth face for Christmas so all my hunnies can experience the mistletoe magic. No you shut up!
Garlic stuffed olives. Oh my goodness! I can't stop popping these. They are good for you right?
I have my eye out for a Led Zeppelin tour. Save your pennies people...you know you have to go. It would be the biggest concert tour every by any group, short of the Beatles playing or maybe Elvis Presley.
I hate Christmas shopping. I hate the malls. I hate ordering online. I hate the traffic. I hate the piped in music. I hate the amount of money I spend. I love getting gifts.
Why do so many of my Christmas lights not work? Why!! And replacing bulbs doesn't work either. What a scam!
I've been watching ad based free video services, and I can see they are struggling. It's not the way to go. You might appease some of the DRM Free folk, but you aren't making good business sense. Let the market decide please.
Never trust Russia.
Dear Santa, I need the NFL Network please. I need this now.
I am curious as to what you want to get me for Christmas. What do you want to get me for Christmas?
I W Y
Many things in life that are important to me are attributed to my childhood. Growing up in the 70's and 80's, pop culture was a big influence in my life. One person that really always got my attention was the iconic Evil Knieval. As a kid, I loved that guy and all his daring stunts I still have an affection for those memories. Watching him on Wide World of Sports was always a treat. How many times did ride my bike over a curb thinking I was him? I still do.
He had a knack for outrageous yarns: “Made $60 million, spent 61. ...Lost $250,000 at blackjack once. ... Had $3 million in the bank, though.”
The Evil Knieval Stunt Cycle - I had one...it ruled!
Evil died yesterday. Long live the king!
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