Truth: Cheater Cheater Mcbleeder

From my Facebook:
You find out your friend's husband is cheating on her. Do you tell her?
Do you confront him?

Daniela
Confront him thats the one...But never tell, that his job no urs...::)))

Jenna
Confront him absolutely!!!

Pam
Both!

Mida
I would confront him first and say...WHAT THE HELL ARE YOU DOING? LOL

Lp Kim
I would confront him first.

Hockey Dino
What do you say to him? What do you hope to accomplish?

Feryal
No, I d help her to rip her husband off!

Ninfa
I would confront him first, give him the chance to make it right with his wife..

Lp Kim at 8:20am April 7
That's cuz you got the Hot's for her!

Mida
Once a cheater, always a cheater!

Mida
That's what they say, correct?

Lp Kim
I would say" I know what you have been doing, and I don't want to see my friend get hurt, what's going on.?" Sometimes telling a friend can ruin that friendship, if she chooses to believe her lying spouse, then she would have to face a reality, she isn't willing to do.

Ninfa
LpKim.. you are right, I have always thought it was a friend's duty to tell her girlfriend if she knows that is happening, until my very best friend told me that she would never tell someone for that reason.. it would ruin the friendship... so, I have changed my thinking on it, and would first tell the husband I knew what had been going on.

Michelle
Let him know you know .. But I would not tell her .. That might backfire on you... I lost two good friends by getting in the middle ... Also women have a sense about things like this she may not admit it but she has got to be having her doubts .. Men think they get away with this but they really don't for very long ..

Finnian
You cannot be her friend without telling her. Wouldn't you want to know if the roles were reversed?

Jennifer
Definitely confront him first to see what he says. I'd give him some time and then tell her if nothing happens. I'd also try to get some proof so it doesn't backfire. I would want someone to tell me if my husband was cheating!!

Beverly
YEP...... Woman's code of ethics. If you know and you don't tell her? She'd be hurt forever. It's your duty as a friend to tell her the truth no matter what then let her decide what to do with the cheatin' bastard.

April
what is friendship if you don't tell her?

Barb
Absolutely.

Kait
Neither. If I know it they know it too. It's not something you can hide for a long time.

Laura
Had this problem once..she already knew and was cheating too..How about that!!

Lp Kim
Every woman would want to know if their spouse was cheating on them (or every man). No one knows what goes on behind closed doors, except for the people involved. If after time, the husband didn't stop, and was showing complete disregard for his marriage and wife, then I would take her aside. Women can be very forgiving to that sort of behaviour,especially if small children are involved.

Heidi
I would tell.

Theresa
Damned if you do, damned if you don't.

Lp Kim
She will be hurt either way......which relationship is more important....Marriage or friendship?

Jennifer
For some, ignorance is bliss. This is a tough one..

Julia
no,she probaly alrady suspects,if u tell her later she will be mad at you..been there..

Tanya
I would so tell her, we have been friends for over 35 years and I would tie him up while she confronts him...

Barb
Happened to me once. The person who he was TRYING to cheat with was me. I told her, a big fight between the two of them ensued, she married him anyway. They lived together at the time. I did what I had to do. The rest was up to them.

Beverly
Well..... If you "can't" or "don't" tell your friend that her insugnificant other is cheating on her and you know it??? Then in my opinion? You're not even friends. As far as kids involved? He should've thought about that first before he had a "slip and fall". Give me a break! Hello..... Child support, alimony and a caring friend can bring a smile back on a woman's face pretty damn quick!!!!

Barb
You got that right Beverly!!!!!

Joahna
I would confront him and say, either you tell her or I will tell her!

Carole
It is none of my business.

Amie
Well unless you see them actually having sex you don't know what the extent of the relationship is so I would confront him first. If I was unconvinced it was innocent, I would share the facts of what I actually saw...Your husband was coming out of a restaurant with his arms around a woman...and then let her deal with it. I would be really pissed off if my husband was cheating on me and my friends didn't share their suspicions!

Teri
An affair doesn't cause a bad relationship, it is symptom of one. Unfortunately, people cheat instead of fixing what is missing in their relationship or ending the it altogether first.

I would let the cheater know I knew and hope that would cause the cheater to think about what they were doing...And no, I wouldn't tell unless asked outright if I ... Read More

Bob
Better yet, steal her from him (and don't cheat on her).

Rina
No - I pay the Mafia to tell him....

Kelly
You have to tell! Confront the cheater, whether it be the wife or the husband, and tell the spouse. My friends told me after the fact when I already found out. I felt betrayed by both parties. It's then up to the cheated on person to decide how they want to handle the situation...but, they need to know! Cheaters ALWAYS get caught eventually.

Michelle
Your damn right~I won't see anyone go through the hell I did!!!! Trust me if you don't it will come out in the end that you knew and then you have a whole new set of problems to deal with! Jsut put yourself in that persons shoes....

Cheryl
Stay out of it. She probably already knows. Just talk her into waiting to having kids!!!

Angella
I'd confront him, tell him that he better let his wife know what's going on before I do...ugly, ugly situation btw...been there, done that...she stayed with him and I lost my friendship with her :(

Marisa
I'd give the husband about 2 seconds to spill this guts, if he doesnt....I tell her.

Bob
It depends if you are 1. involved with her husband. 2. do you want the wife. 3. can the guy afford child support. 4. is she a better friend than she or is he a better friend than she

Mariann
That depends. If there is reason to believe an actual exchange of bodily fluids is taking place, maybe. If I care about someone, I wouldn't want them to be exposed to HIV or any other STD's unnecessarily. No real emotion involved here on my part. Just a general public safety issue for a friend.

Jo
Yes, I have told a friend and told the cheater I saw him.

LynRae
awe. sadly, i would have to wait to see if she suspects her man is cheating and then if she does i would talk things over with her.

Karen
Your damn right I'd tell her. After all what are friends for? I despise people who cheat, hate the act.....if you arn't happy at home, get the hell out of the relationship before you do some thing so cold and heartless. You deserve everything you get, and hopefully my friend will leave your sorry ass....

Valerie
u tel her and screw him