Truth: What Scares Me

Some things that scare me on this Halloween...

Death
Hurting those I love
Walmart
The Excorcist
Myself
Losing Focus
Being spread too thin
Rats
Snakes
ATM fees
Bats
Ohio
Donuts
The View
Not being able to atone for my sins
Politicians
The dentist
The eye doctor
Time
Regrets
Misunderstanding
Not trying
Punting
Butterflies I can't catch
Painting
Spam
The doorbell
Cops
Detroit
Lady Gaga
NASCAR

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EiOmhOumh-w

A.D.D. Rumblings No.103010

1. While running the other day, I found a great way to pick up speed.  Have an albino skunk walk out in front of you.  Man I ran like the wind after that.

2. I didn't know I was a soprano. While lifting weights the other day, my 30lb dog decided to jump on me, you know where.

3. On my drive in to work, there's this nutty lady who jogs with her dog.  Not a big deal usually, but she just doesn't jog, she dances while she jogs. It's weird. I've noticed though, she is showing off. She only does it when cars drive by. I've looked in my mirror and watched her stop dancing as traffic leaves.  A narcissistic jogger.

5. I'm really digging my voice to text feature on my Android phone. It makes life easier.  Now I don't have to type out "no", I can just say it.

4. My new addiction in life is hand sanitizer.  Don't leave home without it.  I use it every time someone shakes my hand.

6. I have a new outlook about politics - screw it I'm done caring. It's not apathy, it's just that I don't want to be involved in the stupidity of all anymore. I wasted so much time on this garbage.

7. I want to be one of those people that are famous for a quote. Usually they are famous people who quote; but I want to be famous for a quote.  I'm tired of taking credit for the works of "anonymous".

[This blog is brought to you by the word awareness and the number 20]

8. The meeting nod.  No, not dosing off, but where everyone in the room nods in agreement with the speaker in order to indicate they agree or get it.  Is this needed?

9. I was at the Halloween Store checkin out some garb, when I noticed they had an entire wall dedicated to scantily clad women Halloween costumes.  This has been a public service announcement.

10. I haven't had any sweets, with the exception of a piece of birthday cake in about 30 days.  I feel great.  Although I'm not so sweet anymore, so maybe there's a connection?

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YRuY49nXgA8

Truth: Colorful

It was the best of times, it was the worst of times. Have you ever seen something, someone, or someplace that is just so beautiful you feel God is right there giving you his own personal show and tell?   When you look at it, your breath just gasps for a second because you are overwhelmed at how it simply pleases you in all it's simplicity and grandeur?  Like the smile of a baby; the shores of Lake Michigan; the blue water of the Caribbean; the green eyes of your soul mate; a mountain view through the fog; the splendor of spring; the green grass of baseball; the autumn leaves; the Christmas snow; a summer sunset. ...

Beauty - color, it means something.  Go find it, and bring it.



Words that flow from your mouth
Drink like it's water

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NzHRmMGocD8



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Truth: Fixing You

Advice and words of encouragement that I never like to hear:

You look good.
You'll be ok.
You'll be better because of this.
You are better off.
It will be ok.
You will be stronger.
Everything happens for a reason.
This is the way it was meant to be.
God has a plan.
It will all work out.

Hogwash!

Yet, I've heard them to me unsolicited time and time again for various things.  I'd never give such advice to someone, because who am I to know, and repeat the standard cliches?  Good intentions? Yes of course. No harm, no foul I surely understand.  But the actual words? - come on.  I want you to really encourage me if you really want to without standard cliche's.  I'd do that for you Holmes. I want you to really give me sound advice not cookie cutter stuff. I don't want cliche's; especially empty ones. I'm not complaining and I do appreciate the gesture, but you are wasting my time.  Give me something from your soul, not your lips.

THINK

Lights will guide you home
and ignite your bones
and I will try to fix you
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pY9b6jgbNyc





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Truth: What I've Learned...

What I've learned recently is that you need to keep working at something you love.  

What I've learned recently you need to try because before you know it can be gone just like that.

What I've learned recently is that change, death, miscommunication, issues etc, all can influence the departure of what you hold dear.

What I've learned recently is the communication is the key to successful endeavors.

What I've learned recently is that feelings matter.

What I've learned recently is that instincts matter.


What I've learned is that love is so short, forgetting is so long.

What I've learned recently that space and time is a weird thing to understand.

What I've learned recently is that I don't know how to empathize very well.

What I've learned recently is that you always tend to hurt those you love the most.  I haven't learned why though.

What I've learned recently is that you need to never take anything for granted,

What I've learned recently is that logic and reason aren't as important as feeling sometimes.

What I've learned recently is that keeping secrets is pointless.

What I've learned recently is that there is no such thing as fair.

What I've learned recently is that being at a disadvantage at anything sometimes really hurts.

What I've learned recently is that I've been wrong even when I thought I was right.

What I've learned recently is that I've been asleep at the wheel.

What I've learned recently is that you need a balance in life.

What I've learned recently is all that I want is what I have.

What I've learned recently is that saying your sorry and meaning it is important.

What I've learned recently is that you can never apologize enough.

What I've learned recently is that people who say everything happens for a reason, aren't thinking.

What I've learned recently is that everybody hurts sometimes.

What I've learned recently is that all work and no play makes me not happy.

What I've learned recently is that I've got more than I need.

What I've learned recently is that I need to stop and listen better.

What I've learned recently is that butterflies need to fly on their own.

What I've learned recently is that being free from yourself is a good thing.

What I've learned recently is that there are bad consequences from even good intentions.

What I've learned recently is that stress sucks.

What I've learned recently is that Rome gave the people bread and circus, and they were happy.

What I've learned recently is that football coaches are weird.

What I've learned recently is that unconditional love does matter.

What I've learned recently is that I like apple butter, but not apple cider.

What I've learned recently is love is the tool you should use, not the answer to problems.

What I've learned recently is that I have quite of bit to learn.

Shame on me for kissing you with my eyes closed so tight

Truth: Sometimes

Sometimes
Sometimes what you value escapes you
Sometimes what you know misses you
Sometimes what you need is right there
Sometimes what you have is all you need
Sometimes what you searched for is already found
Sometimes what you lose is more than you know
Sometimes what you deserve is what you get
Sometimes what you find is already lost
Sometimes what you want is what you can't have
Sometimes what you notice is you missed it
Sometimes what you feel is the truth
Sometimes what you love is everything
Sometimes what you trust is yourself
Sometimes what you do isn't always right
Sometimes what you didn't do is wrong
Sometimes what you search for is impossible
Sometimes what you hold dear runs away
Sometimes what you keep close pulls away
Sometimes what you pull just pushes away
Sometimes what you desire is just that
Sometimes what you like is what you love
Sometimes what you identify is liberating
Sometimes what you try isn't important
Sometimes what you fail at can kill you
Sometimes what you imagine is only a dream
Sometimes what you dream is only a wish
Sometimes what you wish is just an unplanned goal
Sometimes what you valued becomes more valuable
Sometimes what you regret is not thinking
Sometimes what you think is not thought out
Sometimes what you accomplish is nothing
Sometimes what you have is everything
Sometimes what you deal with is forever
Sometimes what you embrace isn't enough
Sometimes what you are sorry for wont fix things
Sometimes what you feel is your mind talking
Sometimes what you are loyal to leaves
Sometimes what you devotion does it wake you up
Sometimes what you know is not much of anything
Sometimes what you are is not what you think
Sometimes what you work at ends up unfinished
Sometimes what you pursue ends up being a chase
Sometimes what you have to do is a must
Sometimes what you leave is what you hurt
Sometimes what you feel is an illusion
Sometimes what you write is just dumb
Sometimes what you do is too much
Sometimes what you examine is pointless
Sometimes what you are is who you are
Sometimes what you ends just begins
Sometimes what you think is right is wrong
Sometimes what you reason is illogical
Sometimes what you rationalize is nonsensical
Sometimes what you devour is what you repel
Sometimes what you find is reasonable
Sometimes what you uncover is a whole new world
Sometimes what you think is nothing is something
Sometimes what you breathe is the end all
Sometimes what you think isn't what they think
Sometimes what you conquer isn't worth it
Sometimes what you help ends up breaking
Sometimes what you have are just good intentions
Sometimes what you know you just don't know
Sometimes what you are, therefore you exist
Sometimes what you say are just words
Sometimes what you mean is just hollow
Sometimes what you dive into is just shallow
Sometimes what you encompass is hard to find
Sometimes what you live for gets taken away from you
Sometimes what you do isn't worth doing
Sometimes what you think is gold is just bronze
Sometimes what you have hold your heart takes it
Sometimes what you think is concrete crumbles
Sometimes what you experience gives you pain
Sometimes what you live for is what you'd die for
Sometimes what you hurt, is what you love to death

Sometimes



http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LDWXCec0BQE
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Truth: Marriage Survey

This past summer I asked some people what they enjoyed, and didn't enjoy about being married. I've changed the names to protect the lucky and unlucky spouses:


Gena:
What I enjoy about being married:
It's comforting knowing that someone wants to be my lifelong companion, and vice versa.  Also, I welcome the thought of having a family of my own.  I wouldn't want to welcome a child in this world without being in a stable, committed relationship.

What I dislike about being married:
When times are tough, you can't just pick up and go as easily if you are single.  It seems that every decision needs to be discussed with your significant partner, no matter how small it is.  I also miss my independence.  At times, I miss coming home to an empty, quiet and clean house ... exactly how I left it.  :)


Sheila:
What I like about being married:
Being in love without having those in love feelings all of the time.  You just know that you are there for each other through thick and thin.  It's an unspoken bond, and it works.  It's good to know when things are bad, that we still have each other and don't have to worry about that.  Issues make us stronger and better people in the end. And sex!

What I don't like about being married:
There's nothing I don't like about being married. He has many things that bug the heck out of me, but overall I love him, so that's ok. It's all small things anyways.  I'm sure I bug him too.


Caroline:
What I like about being married:
Stability
Companionship
S-E-X is still smoking after all these years
The support I receive from my spouse
The inside jokes
Knowing someone is there through the good times and bad times
Knowing we are stuck with each other
I don't deal with the bills
Being in love

What I don't like about being married:
The compromising
Having to listen to my spouse talk about their bowel movements


Donna:
What do you like about being married?
Someone to love no matter what, through the good times and the bad times, through the open camping woodsy air to the confined fart explosion room. At the end of the day, it's good to have a mate.

What don't I like about being married:
The damn toilet seat!


Tina:
What do you like about being married?
Someone to love no matter what, through the good times and the bad times, through the open camping woodsy air to the confined fart explosion room. At the end of the day, it's good to have a mate.

What don't you like about being married?
Not being able to have one nighters!


Darlene:
What dont I like about marriage I could write a book.  My marriage screwed me up and I am still not right, 9 yrs later.  Now that I am in Texas I finally feel free from him, and his effects on my life.   I had a husband that wouldn't let me go anywhere do anything or have relationships with friends with out fighting with me. Even my jobs I was told I was no good at everything, and it took me many years to realize not only was I good at alot of things I was a good mom and person too.

I hope some day I can find what people say Marriage is good for. I think, although I have never experienced it, companionship, love that is unconditional.  Someone who likes me for who I am,, feeling secure, that someone will be there for me, but again I don't know that, because I have never had those things.  I know it exists though, and those people are lucky who have this.



Wanda:
Companionship.
Sharing thoughts without saying a word.
Feeling like I was going through life with a partner.
Ridiculously great sex on a regular basis.
Having someone to cook for.

What I didn't like about being married :
He was moody. I sometimes felt like my thoughts and opinions weren't heard. There was only room for him to be right.  I began to feel very much alone although I was married. Which I feel is far worse than being alone.  I felt he was competitive and wanted to be the only successful one in our family.

Lisa:

What do you like about being married?
He has unconditional love for me.  No matter what I do, say, he always has my back and best interest at heart.  I could never ask for more, and this always outweighs the negatives.  Life is short, you have to love being loved!

What don't you like about being married?
He works very hard long hours, and that makes him a slob in his free time. I want to kill him sometimes.

Bruce:
What do you like about being married?
I'm not anymore, but my kids were the best thing about being married.

What don't you like about being married?
 Having to deal with women and their thought processes in general.  What they find interesting is usually just boring to me, and rather than attack a problem or resolve an issue, they all want to talk it to death. (which doesn't really make it go away or solve it, all it does is postpone dealing with it and drives you nuts)


Gerald:
I like being able to come home to someone who understands me, who gets my quirky sense of humor, and who has my back.

I don't like occasionally being undermined when I'm trying to discipline my kids.  I don't like what I'll call an occasional lack of accountability on the part of others in the house.


Rick:
What do you like about being married?
 Everything....all the mushy stuff and all the other stuff.  I'm not really a mushy guy so I won't write it out 'cause I have to maintain my rugged exterior. ;-)

What don't you like about being married?



Aaron:
What do you like about being married?
Always having your best friend around.

What don't you like about being married?
Monogamy.


Doug:
What do you like about being married?  I like having someone so close to me, that I can tell anything to, without worry.  I like the intimacy.  I like that my spouse relies on me, knowing that I will do what is needed.  I like that my spouse shares responsibility, usually without question.

What don't you like about being married?  The In-laws.  Dealing with the little annoyances (tapping the bowl with the spoon, before filling the spoon type of stuff).  The In-laws.  The fact that my spouse does not know how to drive a car.  Did I mention the In-laws?


Ted:
What do you like about being married?
Being with the one I love. Someone to SHARE things with. Conversations, feelings, travel, laughter, going places. Sharing/a good companion is the key. I also have someone who gives me space when we are not sharing. I do the same for her. When we are together life is good. When we are not together, life is good.

What don't you like about being married?
Disagreements although these are minor. I would also add that as you get older, the things I like about being married are greater/ more important than the things I don’t like.







http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Qfe9o7zYyFc
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Truth: The Sea Upon Which I Float

It was the best of times, it was the worst of times.
When you love someone, you do not love them all the time, in exactly the same way, from moment to moment. It is an impossibility. It is even a lie to pretend to.And yet this is exactly what most of us demand. We have so little faith in the ebb and flow of life, of love,of relationships. We leap at the flow of the tide and resist in terror its ebb. We are afraid it will never return. We insist on permanency, on duration, on continuity; when the only continuity possible, in life as in love, is in growth, in fluidity - in freedom, in the sense that the dancers are free, barely touching as they pass, but partners in the same pattern. The only real security is not in owning or possessing, not in demanding or expecting, not in hoping, even. Security in a relationship lies neither in looking back to what was in nostalgia, nor forward to what it might be in dread or anticipation, but living in the present relationship and accepting it as it is now. Relationships must be like islands, one must accept them for what they are here and now, within their limits - islands, surrounded and interrupted by the sea, and continually visited and abandoned by the tides.  --Gift From The Sea" by Anne Morrow Lindbergh


The sea is never calm, it is always moving.  Do you accept the movement, or do you choose to drown in it's unforgiving power?  


Work, Love, Life...the ebb and flow of it all exists and forever will long after you go; long after your children go, and theirs too.  How you deal with it, defines who you are.  How you respond to it, defines what you want.  Embrace the sea, no matter how big the waves and it will carry you to shore.  Fight the sea, and it will swallow you and cast you away alone.  


The happiest people in the world are fisherman, they live for the sea.  

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Where's my net?

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MiGGagSRO88


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Truth: Where Am I?

It was the best of times, it was the worst of times. I'm taking a break for a while.  I need to refocus, retool, recharge, rethink, and redo some things. See you on the flip side.

Hug your loved ones and hold on to them tight.  Life is short.

Peace, LoVe, and Understanding

Liberty: Good People and Bad People

A former business partner of mine was always full of advice. He'd give it even when I didn't ask for it.  Which was fine, I didn't mind.  The thing about advice is I either like it or I don't.

He said - people are inherently good. Most people don't break the law, most people don't break rules, most people have a good conscience between what is right and what is wrong. He said with that truism, I could create a business model and not worry about failure from people not wanting it to succeed.  People would inevitably do the right thing, and if my business model could capitalize on that...it would work.

I've always believed that and known that people were for the most part were good. Despite the fact I don't fully trust everyone, because evil exists, I think there is mostly good in the world.  I am not by any means being naive about it either. I'm not walking around in my happy place thinking crime doesn't happen, or that I don't need to protect myself. I know many people who are completely oblivious to their surroundings, but that's not me.

Several people have stated to me recently that the reason I want lesser government is because I am angry and I think people are bad.  The opposite is true.  Sure I'm not a fan of big government, but I think most people are good.  The people that always want government think people need to be controlled. Why? They often site that people will not help people if it were up to them they would not do the right thing.

Do you really think that? Do you really think people are out to do the wrong thing most of the time? If that were the case why isn't everyone carrying a gun? Why aren't the police in full force preventing crimes all day? Why isn't there Marshall law from the mobs of people waiting to hurt you and steal from you?

So it begs the question to those that support government controlling people - Why do you allow people to control you when you think they are bad? Do you really think the government only hires and is run by the good people...and that those bad people who are so altruistic are excluded from this exclusive club?  Are all politicians crooks, but government workers are angels?

Lunacy.

Jeff Burroughs

Liberty: Taxes Don't Help The Poor

Taxes are immoral from a simple ideological construct. The evidence is all there, regardless though of ideology or ism.  Facts and logic dictate this.

If you believe that people are not nice, and would not help those in need in the private sector, then you must believe that those people in government would not help those in need either.  People are people, and there is not a sub set of "helping" people who work for or design the government.  They are the same not so nice people you claim won't help others. So how can they help others if they are not nice to begin with?  All of a sudden because they are in power and have the military behind them they become benevolent?  Who do you trust? Who can you trust? Why would you trust them?

No matter what self serving nonsense or garbage I spew, or what you have to say, the facts are that governments do not ultimately help the poor.  They keep them there, and put them there.  The facts don't lie.

Taxes are taken from one person and given to another by force.

Taxes are taken from one person and given to another by force.

Taxes are taken from one person and given to another by force.

Taxes are taken from one person and given to another by force.

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Taxes are taken from one person and given to another by force.

Libertarians know this, Republicans don't care, and Democrats support this.

When minimum wage is increased for example, taxes are increased.  Minimum wage cuts jobs.  The number of poor increase.  Do you understand?

Sandy Alomar