It was the best of times, it was the worst of times. So my friend Mike poses a question on his Facebook asking what is the path to a woman's heart? I say, who the hell knows! So in reading his responses from the Lifetime Channel audience that adorns his page daily, I was not shocked to see the standard replies:
- You need to listen to her.
Listen? You can listen all day long. It's about empathizing, not listening.
- You need to adore her.
No, they end up taking you for granted. They say they want this, but then after a while they get tired of it.
- You need to communicate.
No, you need to understand each other. There's a difference. You can talk all day long, but if you don't agree...forget that noise.
- You need to make her feel special.
Yeah sure.
- You need to just love her.
No, you need to love each other.
- You need to respect her.
And she needs to respect you and be worthy of your respect.
- You need to make her laugh.
I make chicks laugh all day long. Yeah it's better than crying, but it doesn't solve anything.
Tell her she is beautiful and mean it
-She won't believe you after a while. She may think you are objectifying her.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uZkb5HQaYOU
Oh really? Is that all there is? Is that all that it takes? So with all the break ups and divorces that have occurred, are you telling me that none of that stuff never happened??? Yeah it did happen, that's who they got hooked up or married with in the first place.
You know what, you can do all of that stuff and it means nothing to a woman. You can do all of that, and she still isn't happy or interested. So then what?
There is no path, there is no lock, there is no guarantee. Just hope you hook up with someone who feels the same about you as you do them, then it's all good. Then all of that stuff will matter. Don't expect it to just matter.
OK naysayers...send the hate mail and start with the bitter comments. I'm not bitter. I just don't buy the blah blah rah rah Oprah in a box stuff. Been there, done that, bough the t-shirt..and I'm still paying interest on it.
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