It was the best of times, it was the worst of times. I think the issue that I'm seeing here is that people don't value friendship. What is the point of having friends if you can't be friendly?
I know this guy who constantly talks bad about his friends. At every chance he gets, he just says something negative about them. Why? Honestly I don't even think he knows he does this. I think there's just some engrained up bringing where it just becomes second nature to be this way. I mean he will trash his friends but not sound ticked off or upset. It is just the way it is.
It baffles me, because I know and always assumed he did the same about me. According to my friends, yes that is the case. So I am not bothered by it, that's just how he is. I just don't get it. I'd like to understand this line of thinking and what not.
I mean there is a level of discourse where you have to talk about someone and their behaviors, whether is is positive or not. I get that. However to routinely go out of your way to dog your "friends" in a non constructive way, well that's just not very productive.
Experts will say that people who put down other people are essentially ignoring their own faults and limitations by highlighting the low points of others. Yeah maybe, but I am not so sure.
I am no angel here, I've criticized the acts and behaviors of my friends. But I make sure to not dog them, because what's the point? I think we get caught up so much in the separation of our relationships, that we lose sight of how strong friends can be. We lose sight of how important it is to be there for people, because they will need you,and you will at some point need them. If you are working against that, then you really shouldn't have friends; and ultimately they don't deserve you, they deserve better. That's my friend soap box delivery for the day.